never judge

 assalamualaikum w.b.t...

 

 

 

tahun 2020 ni tahun paling lama stay at home kan..so one of the hikmah is i can spend more time on my blog :)

so, about the title of the entry - never judge .

today tergerak to write about this topic..

some people suka judge orang based on superficial things that they see..and as for me, i don't favor that..

 

everytime i met with these kinda people, i will distract myself by tengok fon ke, buat2 macam tak dengar ke..sebab sometimes i don't know how to stop certain people from judging other people..tapi diri sendiri tak suka nak dengar pun benda tu..if yang tengah bercakap tu person yang me dekat/rapat boleh je nak tegur..but if not that close me pun still jaga air muka dia jugak..siapalah saya disitu untuk tiba2 tegur kan :)

 

"eh why dia tu dah tua2 pun still study.." 

"why si A tak kerja lagi.."

"why si B takde partner lagi.."

 

why this why that..and followed by answers from the one yang questions themselves..

 

"ni mesti sebab etc etc.."

hmm..why nak question everything?

 

Dari Abu Hurairah r.a, bahwasanya Rasulullah s.a.w bersabda: “Jauhilah prasangka buruk, kerana prasangka buruk adalah sedusta-dustanya perkataan.” (HR. Bukhari 5143 dan Muslim 2563) 

 

if you ever been thinking or terdetik to put answer on things that doesn't flows normally like you ever seen before, just keep mum :) tak semua situation perlu lalu flow yang sama..tak semua benda perlu ikut perjalanan yang sama..

you never know the hidden story behind a small curve on someone's face :)

just put this in mind - a person is just like a tip of an iceberg..you only see the surface..not the whole things..so never make assumptions on anything..you never know what kind of life a person went through to stand where they stand today..you never know what kind of tests they had been through..

 

pernah dengar tak kisah pasal a Dr that unintentionally upsetting his patient? yanie attach sekali lagi story tu sebab for me its a good one :) 

 

A doctor was called one evening for an urgent surgery. He answered the call, changed his clothes,reached hospital in minutes & went directly to the surgery block. He found the boy's father waiting,in the hall for the doctor. On seeing him, the dad yelled,

 

"Why did U take all this time to come? Don't you know that my son's life is in danger? Don't youhave any sense of responsibility?" 

 

The doctor smiled & said: "I am sorry, I wasn't in the hospital & I came as fast as I could afterreceiving the call......And now, I wish you'd calm down so that I can do my work"

 

"Calm down?! What if your son was in this room right now,would you calm down? If your own son dies now what will you do??" said the father angrily.

 

The doctor smiled again & replied: "I will say what Quran say:"We come from Allah,and to him we will return". Doctors cannot prolong lives.Go & intercede for your son, we will do our best by God's grace"

 

"Giving advises when we're not concerned is so easy" Murmured the father.

 

The surgery took some hours after which the doctor went out happy, "Thank goodness!, your son is saved!"And without waiting for the father's reply he carried on his way running. 

 

"If you have any question, ask the nurse!!"

 

"Why is he so arrogant?He couldn't wait some minutes so that I ask about my son's state"

 

Commented the father when seeing the nurse minutes after the doctor left. The nurse answered,tears coming down her face,

"His son died yesterday in a road accident, he was in the burial when we called him for your son's surgery. And now that he saved your son's life, he left running to finish his son's burial. "

-end-

if you can't make someone happy, atleast don't add their burden..

tak semua orang nak bercerita kisah hidup dia dengan orang lain..and even if you have a friend yang always cerita anything to you pun, always borrow your shoulder to cry on pun, you can never said that you truly know that person..apa yang dia story to you mungkin just a tiny bit of what he/she had been through..and maybe it just to relief their feelings at that moment je..so you still have no right to tell anything or judge anything only based on that..

 

just, be a nice person :) close your mind from judging others..sebagaimana kamu tak suka orang lain question your life, your face, your rezeki, macam tu jugak orang lain :)

so, practice to be nice..to everyone :)

 

"Hai orang-orang yang beriman, jauhilah kebanyakan prasangka buruk (kecurigaan), karena sebagian dari prasangka buruk itu dosa. Dan janganlah sebagian kalian mencari-cari keburukan orang dan menggunjing satu sama lain. Adakah seorang di antara kamu yang suka memakan daging saudanya yang sudah mati? Maka tentulah kalian merasa jijik kepadanya. Dan bertakwalah kepada Allah. Sesungguhnya Allah Maha Penerima Taubat lagi Maha Penyayang." - Al-Hujurat:12

 

 xoxo,

yanie

everyone live in their own time frame

assalamualaikum w.b.t...

 

 

everyone living in their own time frame..

yes .

we are all living in our time frame..

jangan compare our life dengan orang lain..just live on your own pace..

 

"how you nak kejar pace, nak be mature seiring dengan those yang sebaya you kalau circle you tetap jugak tak moving?"

as someone yang be in this situation, i always get similar question..either direct or indirectly..i'm not actually 'left behind' like few people always said..i choose to be in this road of life.. i choose to still be a student even if umur dah nearly 30..i took diploma, degree, and another degree..one reason is coz i really love to study..and i really wanna achieve my dream..

 

but if people look generally, mungkin la few will said that i left far behind sebab my friends dah ramai yang ada stable job, become founder for certain products, getting married, have kids etc..while me still here - a student with unstable life, no own financial source ofcourse..

 

for me this thing is a choice..for everyone..and depends on how people look on life..ada orang plan to get married at 18, stable job at 20 etc..so lain orang lain perancangan masa depan dia..you cant say orang ni pilih salah, orang ni decide tak betul on their life..sebab dia lagi tahu life dia..and dia lagi tahu perancangan future dia..

 

lets just stop normalize that people need to be stable on everything by 25 can we?getting married before 25 etc..we already in the new era..stop normalizing that certain thing need to be done at certain age :) 

 

and stop saying "ohh dia takpela, parents kaya, takde kena tanggung adik-beradik etc etc"

as you never know which part of life yang dia let go for the decision that they made :) bukan semua orang lahir dalam guni beras..sekalipun dia memang lahir dalam keluarga yang mampu, thats not the point yang you boleh pick untuk question decision dia :)

 

for me, perspektif orang on life ni lain2..and i really appreciate my journey..i got so many valuable experiences sepanjang jalan hidup as student ni..i know a lot, and lagi appreciate what i learnt..

 

paling best is, i know how to appreciate people, and how to ignore people..bukan dari segi ignore sebab tak suka or nak palau dia..but by time you lagi tahu mana satu nak focus..so indirectly you will learn how to sort out life's business..ada benda perlu ambik tahu, ada benda perlu diam and move on :)

and everytime people talk about maturity, and question about others punya mature personality or thinking level, i would ask back 1st before i answer the question..

how do u define mature personality?

iff you define that only based on org tu tak boleh ada sifat childish langsung, tak boleh laugh to a silly things, tak boleh be noob on certain things, need to be serious all the time, then macamtu you wont see people as someone yang mature la..sebab you picture mature personality differently in your head..

 

everyone ada childish side dia..side yang dia tak serious sangat..side where they wanna do silly things..

 

so you cant simply said that if dia ni ada masa yang dia tak serious, then dia immature.. 

"so how do you keep the pace of matang-ness if your circle is at your brother's age?"

be flexible..ada masa you can be silly, laugh, funny, do stupid things..tapi ada masa you need to act like your age..or beyond..tengok situasi..bukan rule the world all the time..

and for me actually pengalaman tu pun dah cukup membantu untuk mematangkan..so indirectly you will be taught by life..

as for myself, bila waktu tak perlu serious, i will be so chill, silly sometimes, laughing, make jokes with my friends etc..but when they need me as someone 'older', when they ask me for serious opinion, then i will be there for them as a someone above their age but still at a level of a friend..

"how about maturity dari segi decision making, work life, pressure control and things yang luar dari norma student?"

this one if you ask me it depends on the individu tu sendiri..kalau you memang jenis yang susah adapt dengan life, still lagi dont know how to manage yourself, even you begin kerja umur 18 pun sampai kesudah you will be stress sebab banyak benda tak mampu handle..no matter in which level you are :)

yes, life outside campus tu jauh berbeza dengan life as student..tapi untuk basic2 things you should already know how to manage yourself..by learning too ofcourse..being in a circle dengan orang yang lagi muda than you doesnt means that you pun kena ikut jadi satu level dengan dia :) mana you tahu those yang circle yang umur dah tua2 tu mampu handle hidup dia? :)

im so grateful that even if my circle mostly those yang lagi muda but their personality varies..i no need to adjust myself so much..ada masa kita perlu jadi matured tapi ada masa kita kena tahu how to have some humor :)

serious all the time pun kelam jugak hidup nanti :D

this life is not a race..its a journey..enjoy the ride and scenery..jangan restrict pandangan untuk satu arah and jangan kusutkan kepala trying to handle things yang kita tak mampu :)

xoxo,

yanie