memahami dan difahami

 assalamualaikum w.b.t...

everyone nak orang faham diri dia kan? sama jugak dengan awak, dan saya :) 

 

but for me, before we demand to be understood, we the one yang kena train diri sendiri to understand people..
 

sometimes, some people hurting others just untuk lepaskan rasa tak puas hati dia dengan orang lain..marahkan person A, tapi lepaskan kat person B..and for me, i dont like that thing..mungkin la iffff the reason behind tu strong enough mungkin can be accepted..but if u someone close to me, and buat that kind of thing, i wont be on your side sebelum that 'solid enough' reason been told..

sebab its unfair for someone to face your temper yang asalnya dari orang lain..if you marah person A then go talk to person A..jangan hurt other person..if you cant due to whatever reason, then try to calm down your emotion..

bukan tak bagi show your emotion langsung..you can still share your unhappiness with someone dengan other someone without hurting them..and i believe theres a lot of people out there that willing to lend a shoulder to you..
 

"mana boleh nak control emotion..kadang kita tak sedar pun kita marah dia..takde niat pun nak lepaskan kat dia"
 

then apologise..for me its still unfair for them..you already hurt them without they know their wrong..lagi worse if they just try to help you tapi got yelled instead..atleast apologise..tak jatuh pun water face tu dengan minta maaf :)

for whatever reason, the best thing is to sort everything out and salurkan pada tempatnya..if rasa tak puas hati dengan someone, talk to that someone..jangan lempiaskan pada orang lain..
 

if you think that 'people tak faham apa i rasa, macamana marahnya i pada orang tu', then yes, dia tak faham..so dia tak patut terima that temper..go marah orang yang sepatutnya..yang tahu punca dia..

if you want people to be fair to your feelings, to understand you, then you too should be what you want people to be towards you..tak adil la you harap orang je keep faham you but you sendiri tak pernah peduli apa orang lain rasa..and then bila orang mula menjauh you label orang tu as selfish sebab tinggal you..

kadang kita terlampau sibuk menilai pekerti orang pada kita; hingga kita lupa pekerti sendiri pada mereka..nak difahami, kita juga perlu belajar untuk memahami :)

 

xoxo,
yanie