worry not about future

 assalamualaikum w.b.t...

as human, kita tak lari dari rasa risau kan..lagi2 risau about our future..

 

know what? syaitan sangat nak kita risau about future..why? sebab that thing akan melalaikan kita, buatkan kita tak tidur malam fikir about that thing that belum pasti..buat kita tak khusyuk solat, buat kita tak jaga hubungan dengan Dia..

so, don't worry too much about future..to be curious is okay..but don't dwell yourself in never-ending worry..

siapa yang pegang future kita? Allah kan :) so why nak worry banyak2..Dia mesti tahu apa yang terbaik untuk kita..

tak perlu question everything in this world..

"how will people say about this later"

"why me takde anak lagi"

"whats gonna happen next?"

"what if this what if that"

as our life, each of us, always and always be in His sight..Dia tahu apa yang terbaik for us..Dia tahu masa yang terbaik untuk bagi anything to us..even if you never spoke anything about your desire to anyone..He always knew :)

jangan letakkan diri kita dalam situasi yang kita menangkan the devil..he want us to be worried..

so that we question everything yang Allah dah aturkan untuk kita..so that kita tak bahagia dengan kehidupan kita sekarang..so that kita kufur nikmat untuk nikmat2 yang kita dah dapat..so that kita lupa, pemegang masa depan tu Dia :)

we have no control of our future..only He does :)

by putting yourself in a situation that you believe that you can control the future, you will only put yourself in complete mess..you will be worried for your whole life..you will begin to be an ungrateful person, an anxious one..and you will be negative of most of the things..this gonna be hard to control..and you will find it hard to be happy again..

"I will approach them from their front, their back, their right, their left and then You will find most of them ungrateful" - Al-A'raf 7:17

why not try to step back, take seat, keep calm, and appreciate the present moment?

its not our job to worry about the future..we never have any power to control it..its only Him who hold the future :) always, always have faith in Him..

never let the syaitan win..never let them make you pessimist about the future..and never let them turn you into negative people..

say good thing, think good thought..and everything will turn into good doa insyaAllah..

 

"if Allah is everything you have, you have everything you need"

xoxo,

yanie

stay positive but not toxic positive..how?

 assalamualaikum w.b.t...

life full of up and down..tipula if cakap tak pernah ada problem kan..everyone ada their own problem..cuma depends on that person je macamana they handle things..

but after all, you need to concern about your mental health too right..

be positive..so that the negative part cant take over your mind and messed up everything..

but being positive doesnt means that you being toxic positive 🙅

know the differences of these two :)

to stay positive is good, really good..but while being positive thinker means that you still accept the negative part of this world..

while toxic positivity is at a stage in which you deny the negative part..

macamana tu?

contohnya macamni..as me also currently still a student, so i will give example on student side..

let say you have been in a difficult situation sebab you need to stay at home, dengan assignments banyak, online class somemore, your siblings not really helpful lagi, and you need to do chores in between class..and many more difficulties..

instead of trying to pamper yourself by saying "alaa orang lain lagi susah than this.." dan seumpamanya, try to replace it dengan "this gonna pass too..by time..insyaAllah.."

maksudnya, dont turn your back straight away from your current reality..face it, embrace, and adjust the possibilities..dont deny the negative part of life..

this thing not only applied to yourself..you can use this kind of positive thinking for others as well..

when someone come to you and burst into emotion, first thing first dont ask them to stop..instead, stay calm and wait for them to settle with their emotion..tak kisah la dia nak nangis ke, berucap panjang2 ke..jadi pendengar yang setia..sebab some people tak perlu nasihat pun from anyone..they just need some time from someone that they trust :)

and at that moment, you are the one that he/she trust..so jangan kecewakan dia :) be nice..

then later when they start to blame their situation and ask for your opinion, try to pamper them not by giving toxic positive thought..how?

 

don't say things like,

"alaa kau punya susah kira okay lagi..aku dulu lagi susah etc etc...kau kira untung la tu atleast kau................."

 

you will never pamper them..and it wont solve anything either..

instead, try to comfort them by saying,

"dunia ni ada positive and negative side..we need to look on both..and we can never deny the negative part..so, what you face currently might be the negative part..and you have the right untuk rasa apa yang kamu rasa sekarang..its hard..and if im at your place belum tentu dapat be like you are right now..you did well so far..and this thing will pass..kutip mana yang elok untuk move forward..not by sitting there and do nothing..acknowledge the hardness, and try to find the solution.."

"but how if the things not change at all even after sooo long of time?"

"it will..what did i said before about positive and negative?we have both in this world kan..so the positive one akan datang jugak nanti :) even lambat sikit pun :) take this as opportunity to grow up..mungkin your life is teaching and preparing you on how to face the future..nanti in the future you will become tougher and better person than you were yesterday siapa tahu kan..yang penting make move untuk solve and keluar from the difficulties..not just tunggu things to change.. "

be good..by not ignoring what people's feel..

be nice..by being a good listener..

but be logical too..by not denying that everything ada good and bad side..by not denying the negative feelings..by not teaching others to run from the facts..by staying with them through the hard time :)

help/ask them to seek help when they need to..bukan suruh diorang lari dari realiti..if certain problems tu perlu jumpa orang yang lagi arif, advice them to seek the help..jangan biar diorang terkial2 lari from the facts..dont sugarcoat everything..

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thats my 2 cents..

as this life is just like a garden..we have everything in there..the flowers that represents the happy moments..dry leaves that represents not-that-happy part..thorns of the flowers that represents the challenges we need to face, butterflies and birds that represents people around us..that will come and go as they like and we cant hold them on their feet to stay with us :) and the garden also has river..that represents ever-flow life lessons that we need everyday to keep us alive for tomorrow :)

everything is very important for us to have a beautiful life..we are the one responsible on how to decorate the garden :)

bayangkan if dunia ni full of positive or negative things je..tak balance, tak fun la life tu nanti kan..so kena ada dua2 baru balance :)

xoxo,

yanie

Allah uji sebab Dia sayang..kenapa?

 assalamualaikum w.b.t...

 

 

 

"Allah uji sebab Dia sayang..macamana tu? kalau sayang kenapa uji? kenapa bagi rasa susah? tak boleh ke kalau bagi je terus nikmat tu?"

 

pernah tak dengar orang question macamtu? or, pernah tak sendiri terquestion macamtu?

 

tak salah pun nak question macamtu..sebab kita manusia, penuh dengan rasa ingin tahu kan :)

 

but, still...kenapa Allah uji kalau Dia sayang hamba-hambaNya?

 

for me, dia macamni..contohnya, awak doa something kat Dia..yes, He will grant it someday..but kenapa tak grant je terus? mintak nak kaya, dapat harta sekelip mata je, mintak nak kesabaran dapat rasa sabar dalam few minutes je, mintak nikmat makanan sedap terus bukak peti ais ada bersusun nikmat makanan dalam tu..senang kan macamtu..

tapi tak..Allah Maha Memberi, Maha Besar..Dia nak bagi lebih lagi daripada apa yang kita mintak..

kita doa nak kaya, Dia bagi ujian dengan rasa kurang dulu sebelum Dia bagi ganjaran kesenangan dunia..kenapa? supaya satu hari nanti bila Dia bagi kesenangan tu, kita akan dapat hargai and betul2 menikmati nikmat tu..at the same time sepanjang jalan kita nak dapat kesenangan tu Dia bagi ujian supaya sepanjang jalan tu kita dapat pahala sekali, bukan nikmat yang kita doa sebelum ni tu semata-mata..

 

ujian itu bukan untuk melemahkan..bahkan ujian itu sebenarnya untuk menaikkan lagi tingkat kita dalam kehidupan..

even dalam kehidupan biasa pun kita ada exam - UPSR, PMR, SPM..kenapa? apa pentingnya semua tu? untuk naikkan tingkat pembelajaran kita dari sekolah rendah ke sekolah menengah; dari sekolah menengah ke universiti dan sebagainya..dan markah setiap orang pun berbeza-beza kan..dari situ diasingkan lagi kita ke dalam kelompok genius, bijak dan perlukan lebih perhatian :)

sama konsepnya dengan ujian Allah..tapi ujian Allah tu lebih mendalam, lebih perlu dilihat secara terperinci..

 

"kita dah buat baik pun kenapa diuji lagi? dah solat, dah sedekah, dah buat semua amalan2 sunat, tapi kenapa diuji jugak?"

sebab mungkin Allah dah sediakan tempat untuk kita di syurga..tapi syurga tu kan ada banyak peringkat..so, mungkin Allah nak kita jadi penghuni dalam syurga tingkat atas2..maka Dia hadirkan ujian demi ujian untuk tinggikan lagi darjat kita..

kalau Dia tak bagi ujian extra kat kita, apa je yang boleh kita banggakan untuk jadi penghuni syurga atas2 tu?sama je la macamtu dengan penghuni syurga yang lain :)

maka, bersangka baiklah dengan Allah..Dia tidak menguji seseorang diluar kemampuan, tidak juga menguji tanpa sebab :)

thats why kita sebagai hamba yang kadang tak lari dari rasa ingin tahu perlu sentiasa cari jawapan dan hikmah di sebalik sesuatu..everything happen for a reason, kan? dan di sebalik sesuatu yang berlaku pada kita tu tersimpan sejuta hikmah yang kita mungkin tak nampak harini, esok atau bertahun lamanya :)

yang penting, sentiasa sangka baik dengan Allah :)

 

“Sungguh menakjubkan urusan seorang Mukmin. Segala perkara yang dialaminya sangat menakjubkan. Setiap takdir yang ditetapkan Allah bagi dirinya adalah kebaikan. Apabila kebaikan dialaminya, maka dia bersyukur dan hal itu merupakan kebaikan baginya. Dan apabila keburukan menimpanya, dia bersabar dan hal itu merupakan kebaikan baginya.” (Hadis Riwayat Muslim) 

xoxo,

yanie